Many teens may experience thoughts of suicide. In fact, 25% of 11th graders, 21% of 8th graders and 17% of 6th graders reported having thoughts of suicide.
Don't be afraid to talk to your child about suicide. If you think your child may be experiencing thoughts of suicide, reach out to Your Life Iowa for support.
Signs of Thoughts of Suicide
It's important to pay attention to these signs in your child. They can indicate thoughts of suicide, even if your child does not express those thoughts directly.
- Talking about wanting to die or feelings of guilt or shame
- Make a plan or researching ways to die
- Withdrawing from friends, saying goodbye, giving away important items, or making a will
- Take dangerous risks, such as driving way too fast
- Displaying extreme mood swings
- Eating or sleeping more or less
- Using drugs and alcohol more often
Factors That Can Increase the Risk of Suicide
- Previous attempts at suicide
- Knowing someone who had died by suicide or having a family history of suicide
- Having a mental health condition
- Using drugs or alcohol
- Access to lethal means
- Lack of social support
- Being a victim of bullying or exhibiting bullying behavior
- Experiencing childhood trauma, neglect or abuse
- Experiencing a recent loss or traumatic life event
Talking About Suicide
As a parent or guardian, you know your child better than anyone. That's why if you think your child may be experiencing thoughts of suicide, you should talk to them.
Talking to your child about suicide can be scary. You may feel unsure of what to say or how to help. We can provide you with tips on how to talk to your child about thoughts of suicide.
Tips for a healthy and effective conversation:
- Be gentle when approaching the topic
- Create a safe and supportive space
- Give your full attention
- Listen
- Be direct. Ask "Are you thinking of killing yourself?" or "Are you experiencing thoughts of suicide?"
- Take them seriously
- Offer to get them help by calling a crisis line
- Look into getting them to see a mental health therapist
- Don't leave them alone if they are in immediate danger
- Don't promise to keep it a secret
Do you know a young adult who is having thoughts about suicide? Visit Help for College Students for information and resources.
Factors That Protect Against Suicide
- Knowing healthy coping skills
- Feeling connected and supported by friends and family
- Feeling connected to school or community
- Cultural or religion belief that give a sense of purpose and discourage suicide
- Limited access to weapons or firearms
- Prosocial behaviors, such as getting along well with others, showing kindness, following rules, being good at sharing and caring for animals
- High self-esteem
- Strong problem-solving skills